"Spirituality" means greater intimacy and deeper
awareness. And "sex?" You know what that means, don't you?
The energy of sexuality has
provided the fuel for a lot of conflict, personal and cultural. The
manipulation and control by religious and government interference
(dogmatic beliefs and perverted laws) has created oppression,
suppression, and repression of this energy, delaying the true
maturation, and ruining many lives.
Our understanding and
integration of this energy has become fragmented and immature. Our so
called "liberated sexuality" is hardly more than genital
sexuality, which when confined as such, represents the repression of
Awareness, of much deeper intimacies and erotic energies beyond your imagination.
Sexuality changes as awareness grows. For
the average socially confined ego-consciousness, the development is
not much beyond adolescence. By watching this energy, intimately, as
a kind of meditation that watches the content of the mind, the
fantasies may give way to a more intimate understanding of sex
energy in surprising ways. This does not mean squeezing out the most
pleasure or becoming celibate. It means becoming more intimate with
what is actually already there.
Have you tried having a sexual experience
without any fantasy entering your mind? A sexual fantasy reduces the
energy into a form which creates excitation and tension within
the body, usually focused on the image or the body of another person.
Notice what happens to your attention.
For an experiment with sexual energy and
awareness, allow the energy to build when with another person, but
before orgasm, allow all fantasies or thought about what comes next
to dissolve. Stay completely present with the energy. Let any
personalized thoughts and images pass away. . .remain with the
energy as attention, but not focused or reduced into images or
thoughts. If you do this, where sexual energy is no longer
personalized, you are entering the ancient technique of Taoist and
tantric yoga. This is awareness as energy, where the self dissolves
and just Awareness remains.
There are all kinds of techniques involved
in tantric sexuality but the above is a simplified reduction of the
whole matter. But note: THIS IS NOT A CASUAL MATTER. THE ENERGY OF
ATTENTION AND AWARENESS CAN BREAK DOWN YOUR EGO SECURITIES. Sexual
energy, when added to such states of attention, can blow your
identity sky high and create all sorts of problems for the
constricted ego-identity if not part of a disciplined and
knowledgeable practice. Only those who are seriously involved in
transformative functions, and have a deep commitment to a
relationship (or where one has passed beyond simply using the
"other" as a means of self gratification) should
consider any extended exploration of this area.
In tantra, existence itself is the lover.
One does not direct oneself to any kind of experience. It is a
surrendering to the energy as it intensifies, with attention. There
is no desire to possess another. If your sense of identity is
predicated on the other's existence as "husband" or
"wife" or "lover" it is not possible to know them
in a higher sense. But as the separation between you and the other
dissolves, you are no longer lovers in reference to each other, but
to something much larger and deeper.
One who has touched the more integrated
sexual energy can stand outside fantasies, roles, and names, and
simultaneously allow a more intimate relationship. While the usual
level genital sex can be a profound expression of love, it is also
addicting a level of separation and dependency. Here you have
your usual reactive attachments of love and anger. This is where most
reside in their love affairs, and why most relationships are actually unconscious.
Few have any awareness of the impersonal
nature of their energy; it is all unconsciously personalized and
largely conditioned by the culture. What is called intimacy is
unconsciously regulated by the legacy of religious control and
cultural law. Most simply have never known what it is to stand
outside the content of their own consciousness.
The play of ecstatic, spontaneous love is
the nature of tantra, not the limiting of partners into irresolvable
conflicts. This begins with self examination and observing how the
movement of sexual energy can break through and dissolve the
subject-object boundaries of the self. By awakening this natural
power within, self-transcendence is possible.
Over several thousand years of recorded
history, individuals have practiced tantric meditation, the
utilization of sexual energy for liberation.
This is perhaps one reason religions and cultures have
suppressed and controlled sexuality to the degree we see even today.
MOST EVERY MAJOR HUMAN PROBLEM,
INCLUDING SELF AND SOCIAL DESTRUCTION RESULT FROM A LACK OF LOVE
AND SEX. SEXUAL OPPRESSION AND REPRESSION LEADS TO FORMS OF CONTROL
OVER OTHERS, BIGOTRY, AND HATRED. FREE EXPRESSION OF SEXUALITY AND
ITS INTEGRATION, LEADS TO LOVE AND COOPERATION.
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